Myths about Marriage Therapy
As I have been practicing almost primarily as a Marriage Therapist for a few years now, I have come across many ideas and misconceptions about Marriage Therapy, these misconceptions I will briefly share them with you
“The Therapist is just going to team up on me!” The goal of Marriage Therapy is not to take one person’s “side” or the other person’s. The goal is to help figure out what is happening and why it is happening and help both participants find ways that they are able to “make it work.” This, sadly, is the number one reason that people do not want to try Marriage counselling in the first place, which is understandable, I also would not like to be locked in a room where it is 2 vs. 1.
"It is pointless, nothing has ever worked before.” Although it is probably true that the same problems have come up again and again and again, it is perhaps true that attempts to change things have resulted back to the same dynamic. This is normal for relationships. Counselling, and specifically E.F.T., work on getting out of those patterns and dynamics, creating new, healthier patterns together.
“Counselling is expensive.” This one is a half-truth. Yes, therapy has a price tag- I understand it is big. However, the price tag of Divorce (the most expensive thing you will probably ever do) or living in a stuck, dry relationship is also very high. I believe that Couples Therapy is one of the best investments a person can make.
I hope this helps you. If you have any preconceived concerns about counselling or have any questions. Or other misconceptions about counselling that I should add to this list. Feel free to email me at mike@pivottherapy.ca
